Conversation

1) When dealing with my parents where I don't want to stress them out. Matthew suggest saying something like..."I have a problem, but I'm managing it on my own. Not to worry." Also, when Matthew said that I should be precise in my communication, what that really means is that I should always think about setting up an expectation. This tells the other person that I just want to share something. Like they say, talking it out is very good for us. When you set an expectation for your parents, you are also getting the message clearly across to them. That is, whether you need their help or advice, or whether you don't really need them to help or advise but just listen.

2) When you simply want to share, whether it's a feeling or an emotion, let them know (and this is a very important point), that you're telling them because they're my parents. Say, "I'm managing right now".

Because my parents don't know what I'm doing, so if I need your help I'll let you know. The bottom line is, if you want them to take action, that's already a sign of miscommunication.


3) I'm just sharing with you my thoughts - you're my closest friends. Both parties are responsible for the communication, or lack of...
You might want to try the principle, "Ask questions instead of orders".

When they aren't agreeing or aren't expressively agreeing, it means there's not much to say.

People, or should I say, parents, have a tendency to worry...

Fighting procrastination:
1) Matthew also suggest that I do some trial & error.
Ways to fight phases when I am "hesitating to do something"
2) Second chance - ask somebody to review your plan before you do it.
3) Think about the risks; risk assessments.
If you are uneasy about executing it, ask for advice. Always get the 2nd opinion.
Of course, since you didn't ask yourself these questions, please please PLEASE remember, (and this is SO important) ask the right person.

Also...make sure that the advice gives you confidence, not that the other person is confident about using this advice, or that the person who is giving you the advice feels confident.

*If you're avoiding it, it's because you're not prepared.

Time allocation...if you didn't do it, you do the next best alternative, so it's pretty logical that you must be doing something else that what you superficially promised yourself to do.